Morning! Have you popped over to 90 Seconds of Real lately to see what the ladies are up to, how they’re faring over halfway through January? Tara’s been talking about Whole30 & support (or lack of), Darcy’s been talking about how to find your drive when life gets hard, Megan’s been talking about grassfed meats and how good exercise feels to her and I’ve been talking about leaping through windows and pushing through crappy days. In each video post there is a conversation in the comments where we discuss the topic of the day and we really want to hear from you! Success (yours and ours!) grows in an environment of like-mindedness and similar spirit and the support of people who can relate to each other. Go….check us out! Follow us, like us, talk to us! 90 Seconds of Real We’re also on Twitter!
We’re over halfway through January and I’m so grateful that I created a road-map to work off of because even with that map, sometimes I forget where I want to be going. Does that sound dumb? I forget what I want? It isn’t. I’m in a position where I am ready and able to rebuild my life right now and my goals list is a map that is outlining the steps I need to take to recreate the foundation. I sat down at the beginning of January and really thought about what sorts of things I needed to do to get where I want to be and looked at my life and my personality to determine the reasonability of them. Some of them were new (eating at the table) and some of them require constant reinforcement (no spending $$, no eating out). I do feel though, like this map is critical to any success that I’m going to have and it’s made me feel really solid and in control so far, even in the first half of January when I was feeling terrible, I still felt solid and like I was achieving something.
I have February and March’s goals written up already and I tweak them as January goes by. Much of January’s “map” carries over onto the next months but there are some new directions there too. Things I want to do or try, things I need to get done (which will ONLY get done because they are on the map). I have found, in years past, that time goes by So Fast and spring comes and goes and we’re into summer and I turn around and find that I’ve missed critical openings and wasted precious time. Not this year! This year I’m planning ahead, making maps, laying things out. It’s easier in our household that we both know what is going on, what the expectations are and what we need to be doing. We drift less and accomplish more and somehow we have more time to relax….or is it that the time we do have to relax is of such a higher quality that the duration matters less?
This life mapping project is hard work, definitely. Initially I had no idea just how much work it would be to maintain. I look at the “map” every day, review each point and see how I’m faring, what is working and what needs work. I tick off the wins and mark down the misses. I review my personal calendar and determine where I can fit things in from week to week. When I come up with new things I want to do, instead of declaring that I’ll start them immediately (and then probably fail due to lack of time or energy or just the logistics of not planning better), I look at the calendar, check the map and in some cases have added items that will start up to two months from now. This is a definite departure from my “old self” that wanted to do it all right now and got frustrated or depressed when it didn’t all come together immediately. Having learned a few lessons over the last year, I realize that this is a long trip that cannot be rushed. Sometimes it irks me that I can’t just “tick” everything off Right Now but the fact is that I can’t so I’ve stopped trying and I am so much happier with it. This map concept works really well for me and I’ve started feeling awesome and stable. It’s a really nice feeling and one that I’ve missed!
Happy Tuesday, I hope it treats you well!