Wouldn’t it be great if you got your slate wiped clean every single day? If, every day, you got to start again with a gold star or an A+ in your chart? I don’t think this is an original idea by any stretch but it’s been on my mind lately. As a person who is on a seemingly endless quest for balance, I feel like this “New Day” idea is going to factor greatly in to where I go this year and how I get there. I feel, for the first time ever like what happened yesterday doesn’t matter. I think that this is one of those clichés that everyone “says” but that you have to grow into understanding and really believing.
What I did yesterday, last week or last year doesn’t count. I drank too much over the holidays and previous to that, ate too many chocolate almonds when I was going through my work transition. Doesn’t matter. I used to be a weight-room regular and had the physique to prove it (*). Doesn’t matter. Good or bad, it really doesn’t matter. You wake up in the morning and start wherever your actions dropped you at the end of the day before. If you ate crap and drank too much then your starting point is behind bloat and guilt. If you ate your veggies and went for a walk then your starting point is in the light of self-respect and self-love.
I keep reading these articles that say that as you get past your early 30’s, certain hormones slow down and this changes and that changes and the things your body did before don’t happen as easily now and it was starting to get kind of depressing….like, through whatever circumstances I experienced or perceived, I missed the window on ever getting “there”.
Since “there” doesn’t really exist and there is no official road map to navigate to “there” and I’ve already made the declaration that I cannot wage war on myself anymore, what’s a woman to do?
I’ve put some goals down on paper and shared them here but I kept trying to fill in a long term goal. My pie in the sky, golden egg, mystical rainbow, dream destination. I realized that I don’t have one. I’m not going to run a marathon, I have no tropical vacation planned, I’m not getting married….I just have my regular life and I want to love living it. So my desire is to wake up each morning in the light of self-respect and self-love. I would like every morning to be the achievement of my long-term goal. Did I live my life in the balance of health, happiness, activity, relaxation, reward and discipline? If the answer is yes? That’s my mystical-rainbow-dream-destination-golden-egg. It’s immeasurable and never ending and I’ll never “get there”…but with the right decisions I can go there every day.
(*) I only realized by recently looking at a picture from almost two years ago that I was in pretty decent form! Since I had no balance and nothing was ever good enough, I never even noticed the excellent shape that I was in and that’s a crying shame.
I am learning that the “Golden Egg” is living the good life. Eating well, exercising, enjoying stuff, doing stuff because it feels good and makes you feel good. Doing stuff because you have to “get there” makes the stuff feel like work and a chore and doesn’t quite feel as good. And we never really “get there” so why not enjoy the journey instead?
I can’t articulate it nearly as well as Melissa Joulwan…
OMG! This is it, right here (fm the link you sent):
My underlying motivation for all of it – the weight loss, the physical challenges, the healthy eating – has always been that I wanted to be the best version of myself. Happy, healthy, fit, strong, attractive. But that pure motivation was poorly translated into external measures that separated what I wanted from what I did.
So I got the notion to try something different. For the first time in more than three decades, what if I didn’t set a physical goal? No weight loss, no “leaning out,” no target time on the clock or weight on the bar.
Instead, what if I simply behaved like the best version of myself?
Then I would become her.
THANKYOU for sharing that link!
So glad you liked it. She has a version of that post in one of her WellFed cookbooks and when I read it I was like, YES! THIS! It just rings THAT bell for me. Glad you are feeling it too. xoxo
It’s cool knowing such smart women!