Going back YEARS into my blogging career, I often seem to post multiple times on New Year’s Eve. Here’s another!
One of the things that I think I would like to recommit to in 2014 (this is NOT a resolution) is self care. My “eating at the dining room table” thing is related right in there with self care. I spend so much of my not-at-work time planning, shopping for and cooking our meals and it was starting to annoy me that we were consuming food prepared with love, in front of the TV or other “device”. When meals would be over in minutes and I could barely remember what we ate the day before, I figured that was not in any way respecting the love and effort that I put into feeding us.
This morning, while at the gym, I noticed that my nail polish is a bit chipped and it irked me. Somewhere along the way I stopped doing things for the sole purpose of taking care of me. Somewhere in 2013 I stopped full body exfoliation (baking soda for the win!), I stopped painting my nails, I stopped reading books, I stopped deep conditioning my hair. Somewhere along the way I forgot to take care of myself. Somewhere along the way I subbed in things that were meant to give me that “feel-good feeling” but which were simply saboteurs in disguise; a glass of red wine, PVR’d shows, cookie and coffee. Not that there is anything wrong with these things, a glass of red wine is a very enjoyable thing on my register. And I will still work on enjoying a cookie with an evening coffee on an occasion. But they are not adequate substitutes for the things that I really value, for the things that I need in order to feel beautiful and healthy and lively.
So, this morning when I noticed my chipped nail polish and then later when I was craving a tanning session, I thought I would add a couple more January goals to my list. In thinking about it, it really does tie in with losing my 15 stress pounds and regularly going to the gym. They are all self-care things that only I benefit from and if I really put my brain to it, how can I expect myself to go to the gym on the regular if I don’t even remove chipped nail polish?
I have been reading some blogs at work (soooo not busy) and apparently people choose a theme word that they will use to define their year. Never heard of such a thing but I think it’s a cool idea. A word to define your actions for the year. As soon as I thought about it for myself, I knew what my 2014 word would be.
2013 was about how the hell we were going to survive. In 2014 my focus is going to be on me again. The things I need, the things that make me better, happier, calmer, more loving, better balanced. The things that speak to who I am and what I value. It’s not about being selfish or not considering other people and their needs….it’s about being self-ish and also considering my own.