Last night was my boyfriend’s son’s birthday and because he works during the day and in a city about a 1/2 hour away from where we all live, we decided to do a late pub night dinner. Ray and I discussed at length beforehand that we needed to ensure that this was a birthday get together that was not meant to include either his ex wife or his ex wife’s family. It’s past time to cut those ties…for our relationship and for Ray’s relationship with his kids. The night before, Ray did a good thing and he called his ex wife and confirmed with her that he would appreciate that she not come to the pub night dinner, this was a family thing for us. She said fine.
20 minutes before we were set to leave to pick up Ray’s mom and go to the pub, she texted and said she’d changed her mind, she was coming anyway. Obviously I was so upset about this….it pretty much means that I’m screwed from here to the end of time. If she cannot respect being specifically asked not to show up to something and she shows up anyway, there’s nothing left that I can do. Ray did what I asked him to do, he informed her of our feelings on the matter and asked her to make other arrangements. She chose to disregard that and claim her ‘right’ to come to whatever she wants that involves her ‘children’. (Kyle turned 31 yesterday). I really have no idea what to do at this point. I’m at a complete and frustrated loss. Suggestions?
In food news, last night’s pub dinner (at 8:30 at night!) wasn’t completely off the rails for me. Everyone had either delicious, greasy, juicy looking cheesy hamburgers and fries or clam & salmon chowder or deep fried prawns….and I didn’t. I just couldn’t see not feeling like utter garbage the next morning if I’d eaten something like that as late at night as it was. I didn’t even take the calories into consideration, it was really just a ‘how is that going to make me feel’ sort of decision. So I had a chicken wrap….grilled chicken, lettuce, tomato and pesto mayo wrapped in a tortilla….and I had a garden salad with it that was disgusting and didn’t get eaten. I probably could have stopped at half the wrap for as late at night as it was, but I had the whole thing….plus 2 glasses of red wine and half of Ray’s Granville Island Winter Ale (so good!). Overall foodwise I feel pretty good about it, I don’t feel like garbage this morning so that’s good…..I did sleep through my alarm this morning though…I think the combo of wine/beer, a few days of heavy exercise and emotional upset last night all came together and I slept like the dead.
I’m meant to go spinning tonight at 7:15. After tonight there’s no exercise until Saturday morning so there’s really no reason I can’t go and blast it and then have a couple of days rest. Plus I would really like to go tanning……tanning is at the gym and spinning is at the gym, problem solved, right?!
Love List ~ November 9, 2011
This morning I am grateful for:
cozy sweater dresses
the numbing properties of wine
deep conditioned, soft and shiny hair